Dear Mr. Turner, father of Brock Turner...
I wrestled with writing this because I don't know if it will reach your family or not. But I'm going to do it anyway for those that it will reach and possibly change the minds of those possibly think like you.
First, I do not judge you for I am a parent too. My son was in trouble once, age 13 when he was arrested and I felt entirely helpless to the situation. That is where or connection stops. You see, much like your son did the crime he was arrested and tried for, my son chose to do what he did. It was out of lack of his father not being consistent, my being in school and working whenever I could and not really knowing how to raise a boy on my own... But all of those excuses aside as well as the excuse that he had @never been violent" or in trouble before that, he DID it. I, as the parent, held my son fully responsible for his choices. I called the police. I made sure that he told the truth and even when he was let out in my custody, I made sure that he was in counseling and went to every single appointment required. I have failed many times as a parent but where I have not is to allow my child to think that the excuses of his circumstances, grow him into a entitled human as your son is.
Now let me explain why I am writing to you and not your son. Because you are the parent and even though he was 20 when this occurred, the explanation you have screamed loudly of the privilege that you allowed to ferment in him to create such a selfish and entitled personality as someone who would rape an unconscious young lady. In fact, as someone who was raped, let me firmly tell you that whether she was conscious or unconscious, his act was violent in nature. And unless you just knew nothing about previous acts, I would guess that this wasn't the first time... Rape is not about sex which is not violent. Rape is about controlling someone to feel empowered over them. While rape does not always include a beating or murder, the "20 mins" you spoke of (by the way, how did you or he know how long if he does not remember), the longstanding implications that it brings on the person who was raped are just as damaging as one blow. Let me not be misunderstood, your son deserves to be in prison as long as she suffers from nightmares, isolation, depression, feelings or thoughts of disgust, mood swings, loss of appetite or hair, not being able to trust or be alone... ANYTHING that keeps her imprisoned from who she was before, as long as she is trapped there, your son should be there.
I'm saddened by the approval given by the judge that this was not "too bad" and he has his whole life ahead of him... What about her whole life? What about the rest of her college career? Should she have been drunk? Probably not BUT she was of age whereas your son was not. Nevertheless, he. raped. her. I want you to look around at the numerous kids of privileged lives and see how many are actually paying for crimes that they commit, learning how to be a LAW ABIDING citizen in their youth or how to become assets to this country... And then I want you to picture a daughter (even if you don't have one) or your sister or your wife or your mom/ grandmother going through what she had to at the hands of a male... Would you give the same speech that you did for your son? I don't think so... Unless he learned that type of behavior... from you.
The point of this letter is to open your eyes. Your son is a convict. He is a sex offender. He committed a violent crime and reaped mounds of undue and undeserved pain and agony on this young lady, their college AND her family. And your eloquent speech helped to set him free... Is all that worth that 20 mins you complained about? I hope you truly find out... and soon enough to get him help... Do yourself and your son a favor, love him enough to allow him to fail and do his time in jail. Because from that is where he will learn to succeed...
A rape overcomer